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seeker1950 · Jun 09, 2012, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Leed

I agree with you 100%. My first marriage was horrible! I put up with alot of crap including verbal & emotional abuse. I stayed in that for 26 years - and I THOUGHT it was good, for the sake of the kids. I later found out that they wished I had left the bum.

I remarried a wonderful man, but we only had a very few years together as he died of cancer. Several years after he died, I dated a little, but found that I just didn't like dating - seems that the guys I dated were only interested in one thing.

I'm very happy to be alone now. Like you I've found a very special kind of "peace" where I can be who I like - I don't have to accomodate anyone else (yes, it's selfish, but at MY age I don't care ). I don't have to worry about someone else's moods but my own; I can eat what I want and WHEN I want -- and I can think about my deceased hubby and smile without someone asking me what I'm thinking about.

I'll never date again or marry again. I love being alone. Thanks Seeker for a good post God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

I did the same as you, Leed. Stayed in a miserable marriage for 20 years, thinking it was best for my daughter, who revealed to me after the fact that it would have been better to have chosen otherwise.

I am happy to hear that you had a short but happy marriage after your first unhappy one. I never found that, and the dating was disastrous, till finally a lightbulb came on, and I decided to try a different (more peaceful) path.

As I said earlier, I applaud anyone who strives for happiness with a partner, and truly finds it, like KathyM!

Patty