I'm happy to abstain too I've discovered that compromising makes me miserable, and the alternative is a man who is infact a puppy, which is OFF PUTTING. I'm much more emotionally stable when unattached and I gotta say I LOVE that aspect, and really like not having to 'watch' myself, and my reactions 24/7. My last break-up was difficult, I lost a 12yr friendship, not just a 2yr relationship, but it made me take a good look at myself. I also grieved after my realization, but I think that's normal, change cAn be traumatic. I don't frown upon love or even remotely hate men, I don't look down on r/s or marriage, it's just not for me. And in all honesty, it probly never was. I didn't have 'weddings' in kindergarden, didn't play house in primary school, and didn't have bf's in HS, had 3 fairly longterm r/s and even then marriage never entered my mind. If the bf brought it up, I'd make a joke and change the subject. I loved these men, even the 1st, who turned out to be abusive, but marriage just didn't occur to me or seem appealing when mentioned. I'm absolutely sure that abstaining is the right decision for me so glad to see I'm not as weird as people think there ARE others like me!