> I started this thread because I wanted people to tell me how happy they were for me...

How often do you post to other peoples threads to tell other people how happy you are for them? I don't do that very often at this cite... and thus I don't expect people to be so very keen to do that to my threads.

> I think I should only write about my love on the other site, where people are supportive of it.

I don't know that people are supportive of it, exactly...

> Here everyone is telling me it's unhealthy.
> Why is that?

because most people reserve the term 'love' for long term sexual relationships, deeply intimate friendships, and family members. when you say you *love* him then a fairly natural assumption is that you want to marry him, or something like that.

i'm a little surprised that people think this is any stranger than transference (aka *love*) that people feel for their therapists.

but maybe people don't talk about transference (aka *love*) very much at pc? maybe that is a relevant difference...

> We've been telling you this for your own good, but you don't want to hear it.

hrm. have you ever had anybody say this to you before? how did you feel in response? i know i feel mad, resentful, indignant etc when people say that to me... basically... you aren't my father, you aren't my keeper, how come you think you get to decide what is and is not good for me?

> I think Dr B should be reinvestigated for unethical WHATEVER!

?
how so?
have you ever had a hug from a therapist in a group setting?
what is wrong with that?
(i'm serious... i was a little concerned but after some thought... i realise my ***** and i don't see how it is unethical)
though...
don't get me started on how online moderators don't come under ethics boards regarding their offline conduct with posters (more generally).

> I like the bad things about him too. I love him just the way he is.

You like it that he blocks one person for saying x, and doesn't even pbc another for saying x?
You like it that he blocks people in distress for up to one year?
You like it that he doesn't seem capable (to be charitable) of understanding the damage that result from capricious application of a draconian blocking system?

You can love him just the way he is...
AT THE VERY SAME TIME as considering some of his behaviour unacceptable. Wrong. Injust. Whatever.

> Ok so maybe it should go into Schizophrenia and Psychosis, as it seems to follow what you post about, and what you take meds for?

I don't know that it is helpful to attempt to diagnose other people on this site...

I too am a little puzzled at what you expected, deneb.

Did you really expect people here to be supportive when some here have been hurt by him? Did you really expect people here to be supportive when you have been asked before to leave issues relating to the other site at the other site? Did you really expect any good to come of your thread?

People are hurting Deneb...

I don't want to hurt you. I don't. But I think you were on to something significant when you posted about how you don't really seem to understand others pain. Other people said 'we love you just the way you are' and you know i love you just the way you are.

But it is also true that everyone... Can take steps towards being a better person.

People are hurting Deneb.

When you are hurt... People support you.
When you are happy... People support you.

What can you put back?????????????????

Did you really think you would find support for this here????