Thread: I'm torn
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Old Jun 10, 2012, 01:28 AM
greenvalley greenvalley is offline
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Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon View Post
I think you should write everything that makes you afraid of being in a relationship with him. Then I think you should read over it...
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Extreme ditto on the first part. Why are you afraid of being in a relationship with him?

If that doesn't elucidate matters, then you can try looking a little deeper into childhood issues. What was your parent's relationship like? What were your thoughts about their relationship as a child? If your parents relationship was normal enough then this likely won't reveal any cool insights. If that doesn't work then move on to explanation #3

#3 Explanation #3 is that he isn't an easy unconscious match for you. There is a reason they call it "falling in love." You actually have to "fall". Unconsciously there has to be some trust that the love object is safe or familiar. And familiar is more important than safe. This means that he isn't pushing the right buttons to your unconscious mind for you to "fall" or in more psychological terms regress. Although from what you have described it sounds like you really love the guy and just are afraid.
Thanks for this!
doggiedo