Being ready for love--to receive or give it--has been, in my life's experience, something I've discovered as part of learning to be a good friend, to be complete in myself, to be self-supporting, etc. Successfully creating loving relationships just hasn't been a one-step thing.

I'm wondering whether the relationship you want is something that's a many-step process for people like us for whom relations need to grow more slowly. If you are maybe trying to get there in one or two steps (like normal people), that may be what's causing the failure and not some instinsic character attribute.

But maybe I'm just thinking of how I did it wrong for so long ...

Roadie