Hi BashfulBear - I am sorry you are faced with finding a new T, sounds like a difficult time for you.

I don't remember asking my T anything at all - he does remind me that for the first 6 months I hardly said a word, so maybe I really didn't ask anything.

I am contemplating a new T and I have done an internet search on him, to find out about his experience, approach etc.

I think the important things for me, are:

1. Can he provide regular sessions
2. What his experience is
3. What his approach is (this one is more cognitive / solution focused, think I will even get homework)
4. Will he accept contact between sessions (I am OK with it if he doesn't, but would want to know up front so I don't get it wrong)
5. Price

I really know that feeling of being blank and not knowing what to say - I remind myself that it is OK to be blank and anxious as that is why I am seeking a T. Even presidents and royalty use notes to assist them when they are talking.

Good luck in finding a T who you feel comfortable with, let us know how you get on - Soup