HI!!!

I couldn't resist.

Back to the subject...I do agree that many can find their own form of healing (whatever it might be for the individual). I also believe, with all the contacts that I've had that many more carry amazing pain and the MANY splintering effects of childhood sexual abuse with them. As for living normal lives...I ask myself, what is normal? I don't believe in that word actually. I believe normal is an individual perception, and as such is constantly changing and really never attainable. I DO believe in "average".

That said, I feel that many survivors can heal and have an "average" life (for whatever it means to them) regarding childhood sexual abuse, many can achieve the appearance of average while harboring scars that might never be seen...many more remain victims in pain from open wounds that the can't get to scab over.

The massive, splintering, continual effects of childhood sexual abuse can be devastating not only to the victims but to their families, even when grown and married it can affect the new families in so many splintering ways.

Yes, I feel that those who commit a crime against a child should have the stiffest of penalties. I believe that those, as in the aforementioned series, should receive just as stiff the penalty due to "intent". They had MANY chances to not follow through...even after ringing the darn doorbell. They didn't just make one bad choice; they made many. To me it's premeditated, which makes it more calculating and should be prosecuted heavier under the law.

KD