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Originally Posted by Leed
Hey, you did the best you could. You made your amends, and faced it -- if your apology wasn't accepted there's nothing YOU can do about it.  You did what you could -- the rest was up to her. Now she has to live with the resentment - and resentment is the "poison that I take to kill you." So SHE is the one suffering for NOT forgiving you.
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There are also those who rather keep the past to the past and don't want to interact with bad parts of this past. I've done this and I'm guilty of not forgiving people...however I don't live in resentment just because I never forgave them. I don't want them to be a part of my life anymore but I'm not brooding over them. I don't feel like I'm suffering, but maybe you think I am.
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Justbyou I think you should be proud of yourself that you identified and worked through a problem. You will probably never be totally forgiven for the actions you've taken, but you're being the bigger person by forging a more positive future and apologizing to those who will accept it. Just because someone doesn't take it, it doesn't mean they "hate" or "resent" you. Good luck in your recovery.