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Originally Posted by eskielover
You also commented that your job was your love (btw....have you seen the movie Fireproof?)....it sounds very similar to your situation.......
my career was my escape from my bad marriage....my engineering career was a goal I had all my life.....to have a professional career & be more than my parents ever were. Maybe the love of your career has something to do with escaping a problemed marriage in the first place even before you had an affair & another affair.
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BTW, yes, I have seen Fireproof. I can't remember the plot exactly, but if I recall, the main character was married to his job just like I was. It was nothing for me to work 90 to 100 hours weeks working overtime during the summer and over the holidays when other guys were taking vacation time. I went most years without taking any vacation time at all. My personal records, which I sincerely hope no one is ever crazy enough to break, were working 133 hours in a week and being on duty for 60 consecutive hours - and that's not counting the three hour round trip to work and back. I don't know if working like that was unconsciously intended as an escape from my marriage, but it had to have hurt our marriage for me to be gone that much.