Has any of you women ever had an orgasm using your vaginal muscles?
To be honest, I find it quite difficult most of the time to relax enough to experience an orgasm, I feel I can't stop my head thinking, can't just 'be' in my body, sometimes even when I masturbate. And I have never experienced a vaginal orgasm.
But I have started using my vaginal muscles during sex occasionally and I find it really nice, as well as exiting. I know my man does too, he says it's an amazing sensation. So I am wondering if I should try and, so to speak, be the one doing most of the work and if this will help me to orgasm.
I am also wondering if any of you has tips about how to relax, how to shut up all those thoughts in my head?