I think what people that know about this so called Dr Bob is trying to do is be supportive in the manner of trying to get a misguided very young lady to understand what kind of man she is "in love" with. I have been to that site because of the things I had heard. I wanted the option of making up my own mind. If you have never been there ask someone for the address for it and take a look for yourself. You have to agree to be open to his research. "lab rats" in my opinion.
It is very unhealthy for someone online to have that much feelings for someone whoever it is without really knowing the person. Love is a very very strong word. I do believe this man putting his arms around her and telling her it is ok for her to love him is a terrible thing especially it being an older man with a younger vulnerable woman. To me that says predator! just my opinion so please don't jump me for that.