I think there's too much focus on who is loved, and not enough focus on where that love is stemming from and the potential in that alone for a person to be hurt.

I have never been to this other forum and don't know the admin in question but I have, as stated in a previous reply, been in the situation of loving someone who accepted my love but yet could not return it. It's not a safety net and it only feels good when it's going the way you envision it.

Supporting someone doesn't mean being a cheerleader when they feel good and lifting them up when they are down. Sometimes it means caring enough to tell them that what they're doing maybe isn't so good for them.