I know what it is like to be triggered and I get triggered very easily. I go to a counselor at a church. She does not threaten or cause any harm. She can tell when a different one is up and talks only to that one.
My friends know this also. I have a couple ones that HATE to be touched. They have told me that my eyes change and I get very hateful which is not who I am at all.
The church has worked with me for the past two years and we have come a long way. Most of my parts feel comfortable coming out when they want. I am not shunned or in any way made to feel like an outcast - on the contrary, they seem to love me more and help me stay focused when I need to be
Never stay with someone who pushes - don't trust them
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