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Rhapsody said:
I wasn't asking for a formula for happiness.... I was asking for help in learning how to reestablish TRUST and how to HEAL from this type of hurt.... of the heart, of broken trust, of broken vows, and of sexual fear of one that you love.
................................ then and only then will my happiness come

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you did indirectly ask the formula for happiness . . . let's see if i can apply what you wrote into the formula . . .

trust your man (variable A) + your healing (variable B) = your happiness

you want us to tell you how to do A and B, right?

(((((((((((((((Rhapsody)))))))))))) I'm sorry I'm not able to solve your problem. I want to be more supportive, so I'll shutup if you want me to. Sending hugs your way.

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Rhapsody said:
I too have heard the "FAKE IT until you MAKE IT" theory and yet it is hard to say the least.... but I have honestly tried, and then again.... emotions often have a mind of their own.

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It is hard. Pretending takes deception (deceiving others and/or self). The "Fake it 'til you make it" method is not for everyone.