Hi Liv...Most of my scars are on my knees I am fortunate there. The ones on my wrist I typically lie about. Most people know that I used to work in a vet clinic and I attribute the scars to psychotic cats. Whether anyone believes me or not, I dont know. Most people will not have the guts to question you past that first line. Have you tried any scar creams? I have personally never used them, but my mom did and got a small amount of help, at least in her eyes. I think everyone struggles with flashbacks. I think it is something that will stay in your head forever, it is just a matter of if you stay strong or fall back. Some of us (me!) mess up and fall back, but there is always starting over. Will there ever be a day that goes by without thinking about it...I dont know. Unfortunatly the scars reminde me of my past. A twisted punishment for punishing myself?? As for your step daughter, I dont think anyone can truly "understand" unless they have been there. If you cant find the words, mabye a book? Make sure she understands it was a BAD coping mechanism and encourage her to ask you or your husband about it if she has any questions. I started SI at 11. I learned my SI from my mom.