We all know the Dos and Don'ts about speaking to someone with depression, but isn't it just as important for someone with mental illness to choose what they say in return?

For example, I never, ever mean to utter anything along these lines:
"You just don't understand"
"You will never have it this hard."
"There's nothing you can do."
"Leave me alone" -- along with any other form of rejection.

I think accusing someone who is trying to be understanding as not being able to understand is among the worst. We of all people should know how easily others overlook silent pain.

Anyone else have thoughts or suggestions?