I get what you're saying, PFM... we could sit here and come up with a million potential reasons why your T might NOT be lying to you, but that's not exactly going to help with the fact that he actually might be. And it seems to me that you know that none of these inconsistencies is really a big deal in the grand scheme of things, in fact he could probably omit the inconsistent things he says and still be a really effective therapist -- which to me would make it MORE maddening. Why tell me unnecessary things that end up feeling inconsistent and possibly untrue??

So I think you should approach it head-on, and in exactly that way. Let your T know that you feel he's been inconsistent with you and self-contradictory, and while you know there are plenty of possible explanations for the inconsistencies, the fact that you don't actually KNOW these explanations makes you FEEL like he's being dishonest -- even if that's not the case. If it's reminding you of other times in your life when people you rely on have done things that don't totally add up or make sense, and it turned out to be really damaging, definitely bring it up.

There's nothing wrong with what you're saying, and I totally relate to the feeling like things just aren't quite adding up about what someone says, and having that trigger inconsistencies from the past that I would always just try to explain away in my head, but turned out to be a big deal once I finally confronted the person and/or they fessed up.

And of course, there could be good reasons for all of these inconsistencies. But the fact is, to you they're inconsistent with the information you have now, and as you said, if he's going to open the door by mentioning them, he should also be ok with explaining why they don't add up without compromising anything. Otherwise, he should really just be keeping those things to himself.

Let us know how it goes