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Old Jun 12, 2012, 05:11 PM
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Originally Posted by costello View Post
"Mental illness" doesn't just happen within the person with the dx. It happens between people - in relationships. Maybe for some people it's more within the person and for others it's more between people. I can't pretend to quantify it. But the interpersonal part is there, and it's the only part I can really hope to change, so I have to play it for all it's worth.
See, there was hardly an interpersonal aspect when I was first diagnosed; I had already lived on my own for three years. I left home when I was 16 (started uni) because my parents were so terrible. My father was highly abusive and my mother is pretty much an overgrown child (and she'll admit that - in different words - after years of therapy). I actually didn't see or speak to either of them for the three years between when I left and when I was diagnosed. Some idiot in the hospital decided to ring my mum -- her number was saved in my mobile phone -- and while I'm glad we're speaking again, her involvement in my "treatment" was wholly unwelcome.

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It was a gift, because if you take a parent with a screwed up kid and say to him or her, "You're going to have to change," the parent is going to hear "You're a bad parent" - which may or may not be true. That's maybe what that parent's thinking anyway - which is why parents love the medical model. No blame for moms and dads!
Bizarrely, my father HATED the medical model. The last time I saw him, he had stormed right in to a hospital ward on which I was being held and refused to leave until I was released. He succeeded.
I can't help but think now, though, that he rejected it because he could easily have been subject to it. Also may have been a generational thing: he lived through the ****ing War, so how could I possibly have "problems"??

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I eventually ended up finding Beyond Consequences - which is a program with beaucoup problems, don't get me wrong - but it also has some good stuff I could use. I liked that it was love-based.
Interesting. I'll dig around in it for a while before bed.
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Thanks for this!
costello