> Dr. Bob is not a predator!

You don't know him at all.
For what it is worth, I agree. But...
You don't know him at all.

A lot of people have history with sexual abuse, Deneb.
A lot of the time children are sexually abused and it starts with being hugged and being brought alchohol and things like that and it progresses to sexual abuse.

I guess you don't know. I guess you never really thought about it but for someone with a history of that how do you think they are going to feel when they read you talking about it every single day?

Oh yeah thats right - happy for you.

Jeepers.

I've stopped reading your posts because I can't take them any more. One person gets blocked for saying x and other people don't and all you can say is 'I love you for your faults Dr Bob'.

Jeepers.

It is hard to be someone's friend when the friendship is all one way.
Do a search of your posting names and see how many threads YOU start vs how many of other peoples threads you post to.

Me me me.

And it was pretty clear this was going to get out of hand like the last ones. But drama means a lot of responses and now we can cry to Dr Bob about people being upset with him.

Jeepers.

as you can tell i'm not happy

I WONDER WHY?????????????

do you have any idea?

but of course you thought i'd jump on this thread...
come to your defence...

You need to think about this idealisation.

I've said it before and I'll say it again:

You don't look at his faults
You don't properly acknowledge his faults
You focus on the nice qualities you project on to him
You focus on those
You work yourself into it
You intensify the feelings
You block out anything else
You affirm those feelings every day

You don't moderate those feelings.

And one day you will think of him
And you won't get that magic buzz.
Or you will wonder what on earth all the fuss was all about.
Or you will feel a little ill.

And then disillusionment will kick in.

And then...

Rage and hatred.

The trouble with idealisation is that it leads to devaluation and rage once you perceive the object of your *love* isn't worthy or whatever.

A block could be the thing that flips the switch.

You can work on having a balanced view now...
Or...

It is a well documented phenomenon.

Sorry Deneb...

But I need a break.

I can't believe you sometimes.