Took a rough to do stand for my self was waiting and preparing the right time and everything and I did it finally couple times now, things are good no problems besides children. Is so hard to take a stand but after I did I felt relieved as a hole to be able to do that. I take a double take on everything my Wife says is hard to change, I was always an impulsive thinker on everything in my life is why I do what I do, change can happen I keep telling myself that,when u are feeling angry or resentful, how do you express feelings,while u were growing up,your parents either argued or conspired to avoid an arguing, nothing is easy.