Wow....have been searching for this kind of caregiver support for a long time. I was raised by a mother who started having serious epression issues in her mid-thirties, so when I was engaged to my now-husband, I recognized all the symptoms. Looooong story short, after years of trying, I finally have him taking his Meds when he should and he's on his 5th? Therapist. He starts to go and then asks me to come "since you see it better and can explain what you see". Bottom line..."you can do it for me" That's the root of the problem I carry all of the burdens in our marriage....I do all of the finances, am the primary parent, I keep him on track...overwhelming. He cycles like bipolar and every few years has a MAJOR depressive episode that goes on for months, regardless of my prodding..gentle moves to stronger until I think that I'm the one who's going to lose it. Now I'm scared because our 10 yr old daughter has been exhibiting very depressive/almost OCD tendencies. Also, my MIL, also having depression, has just moved in with us due to complications from surviving aneurysm rupture(God bless her!) I am a natural caregiver, but I'm at my wit's end with my husband...I am 38 and have had chronic spine pain for 10 years(having surgery on the 28th) and I'm just in way over my head.
Wow! That was really long...so sorry. Hoping to find/offer support with other people in similar "places" in their life.