Thanks for the responses, Leed, Kathy, Az and Sakura, you all have points and given me something to think of, really, but we were back in contact last night, she says she does try but finds facebook awkward and doesn't go online at work anymore since it makes her unproductive which is when I'd catch her on sometimes which I think actually makes sense. The timezone's always been a bit weird anyway, since we're in the UK and she's 8 hours ahead of us and etc.