My T said something to me yesterday, which I am trying to get my head round - there are some things that have been "named" but not talked about in the sessions. They are there to be talked about at some point when it feels safe enough. T told me the significant thing is not what the things are, but being able to talk about them with T. I'm sure I grasp this completely, but I think the significant thing therefore is feeling safe enough and being able to trust someone enough to share - so the process rather than the content.

I say I am struggling to grasp because those things that have not been spoken about, for me are huge and there remains this bit of me that things they are the most important thing, so not the process but indeed the content. But T's words stick in my head and I am trying to understand them.

So it therefore follows, the fact that you shared this with your T, means you have taken demonstrated that you can take a massive step forward - the fact that it has taken you so long to share, shows how brilliantly you have done - you achieved something that was really, really difficult for you - so hope you feel suitably proud of yourself.

I also realised from my session yesterday - that maybe the real work starts when we can get to that place of trusting deeply - so you're probably not done - you have just succeeded in laying some really solid foundations from which to build on.

Huge amounts of respect to you MKAC - Soup