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Jun 13, 2012, 03:59 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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First, your daughter will be better off with you HAPPY and divorced, than she will be UNHAPPY and staying in the marriage. Children can feel when their parents are tense, unhappy, and resentful. It makes THEM unhappy. So don't worry about her -- she can still see her father. And even if your husband fights over custody of her, he'd been cheating on you for quite some time, and the judge is going to see that. And judges many times give custody to the mother! You've proven you can work & support yourself so I don't think you have to worry too much. 
And why should you have to explain why you were talking to your ex? You were unhappy and he was out "playing" with women, so big deal? YOu needed someone to talk to, and luckily you remained friends with your ex! You didn't do anything wrong! He is just a friend. If your husband can't deal with you talking to a friend, he has a very fragile ego! He didn't care much about YOUR ego, did he! Tell him where to go!
Sweetie, I think you're well RID OF HIM! You will be OK. Yes, it can be scary being on your own. When I got divorced from my first husband, I was really scared, cause I had NEVER been on my own -- but I felt like the weight of the world had been taken off my shoulders cause he'd been an abusive jerk. Finally I was FREE and I could start over again. It takes time -- you have to build a credit rating (women don't have one -- did you know that? ) When you're married, it's always in the MAN'S name.  So I didn't even have a credit rating. !!! Grrrr. After 26 years, even tho I paid all the bills, and HE had the AAA credit rating -- I had nothing! Anyway -- you'll be fine. Yes, you grieve for the "death" of the marriage, but it doesn't last long. 
Just keep posting here hon, about your feelings & fears. We'll listen. In the meantime, either kick him out, or move. Yeah --- make HIM move. And make sure he pays for your child's support - even before the court orders it! God bless sweetie. We'll be here. Hugs, Lee
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