Thanx guys for all your advice! unfortunately we live with his uncle so putting him out is an impossibility. Its ok though...its five am where I'm at and I'm already gone. I just packed and left. I'm gonna jus sit in my car (I'm parked at Walmart in case he comes looking for me, yes he can get violent) but I only have 3 hrs til I have to be at work so ill be ok. I really want to thank all of you for your kind words. I don't hear nice things that much and you guys made me cry hysterically because u made me actually have hope in myself again. Thank you very much. Your words are in my heart and will never be forgotten! !! :-) GOD BLESS and ill keep u guys updated with what happens next. With the kind of person he is..my attempt to leave peacefully will not be peaceful here soon. I jus know that me and my babies deserve better..and I think I'm starting to believe we deserve better. Again thank u sooooo much