Please everyone, this thread is turning into a nasty thread. I think its important to remember that we are all individuals. From the little that I am aware of, Greenleaves is in the process of figuring herself out?! I think there was a time that we all went through this and some of us are still actively going through this process. Why such anger? In reading Greenleaves posts, I agree, she has an obsession with this admin guy, But, why do others care so much that her thread has turned into a war. I was reading some of her posts and it sounds like she has come far, yes? The direction this thread has taken has gone in all the wrong directions. Who cares? So she has an obsession with admin guy. I have a great fondness for the man who gives me my coffee in the morning. he reminds me of my dad . Maybe, I love him, I would be very sad if something happened to him. For someone who has opened up to everyone on these boards and said, I have trouble with IRL relationships and that online is her most frequent form of communication it does not suprise me that she feels happy to talk about him! It is really not much differnet then therapist discussions, and if I was limited to my IRL communication I'd bet I would talk a lot about the man who serves me coffee. Let her be happy. We are all differenet and we all need different amounts and different types of support. It sounds like greenleaves is trying to learn how to communicate with others and at the same time is managing her feelings well.