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Originally Posted by Odee
We all know the Dos and Don'ts about speaking to someone with depression, but isn't it just as important for someone with mental illness to choose what they say in return?
For example, I never, ever mean to utter anything along these lines:
"You just don't understand"
"You will never have it this hard."
"There's nothing you can do."
"Leave me alone" -- along with any other form of rejection.
I think accusing someone who is trying to be understanding as not being able to understand is among the worst. We of all people should know how easily others overlook silent pain.
Anyone else have thoughts or suggestions?
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Ok well I have a few issues with that, I actually do feel very misunderstood and if someone is making me feel that way I should be able to express that. I mean if I feel like they don't understand what am I supposed to do smile and pretend I think they do? I am sick of faking honestly.
As for never having it that hard I wouldn't say that as to me its kind of irrelevent wether they have it as hard or not or end up having that hard in the future has no bearing on how I feel.
There is nothing you can do...is sometimes true, sometimes there isn't anything someone can do. Though typically I'd probably try to indicate them just being there is good enough...unless of course their presence is making me feel worse at the moment.
And I really hate 'leave me alone' but sometimes it is needed, sometime I really do need people to leave me alone.....either because they are causing too much stress and I need a break(doesn't mean I hate them) or because I am having a moment and might freak out on them I think they would take 'leave me alone' or give me a minute better then me going off on them.