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Jun 13, 2012, 02:56 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2011
Location: US
Posts: 128
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Originally Posted by Leed
Hazel ~ You have GOT to get your kids OUT of there!!!  I stayed with a VERBALLY, EMOTIONALLY abusive man for 26 YEARS for the sake of my kids! And you know what??? My son is a hopeless alcoholic, who could NEVER please his father. My daughter, thank God, was strong enoough to rise above his abuse, and is herself a successful mother -- but her own daughter is a rebellious teenager.  Luckily my daughter knows how to handle her.
But the fact that I stayed with that man destroyed my son. And it didn't do ME ANY good either! My self-esteem was destroyed, and I TOO became an alcoholic. I drank myself into oblivion for 20 years! He had beaten me down into thinking I was stupid, useless, worthless, unlovable, ugly, yadayada -- so I drank to ease the pain and escape. Thank God for AA -- they saved my life and I've now been sober almost 19 years.
Hazel, even if you have to go to a SHELTER -- get those kids OUT of there and get an ORDER OF PROTECTION against him saying that he abuses your daughter and you!!! You CAN get one! He won't be able to come within 100 yds. of you. (or something to that efffect). You can always get your stuff from the house later when you find a place to live - and have the police come with you. BUT GET OUT. Those kids can't AFFORD to stay around him any longer.
As far as "visitation" -- you can have the judge DENY that, if you can convince him that it's in the best interest of your daughter -- she may have to talk to the judge. But that's ok!!!
I wish you the very best Hazel. Don't be afraid. It's always scary being on your own, but YOU'LL MAKE IT. Your kids come first! God bless. Hugs, Lee
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I am very proud of you for being sober for 19 years. That is fantastic! I hope that you stay strong and I hope that I can gain courage.
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