How do you lust visually? If you're lusting, regardless of whether you're looking at an attractive person or not, it's mental and physical. I'm not saying it's impossible to find a man like you describe, but you'll have a very hard time doing so, unless you get really lucky. Lusting is natural, for men and for women. But just because you lust doesn't mean you have to give into that lust. And you can push away lustful thoughts, but they occur, however briefly.