But didn't you go into this therapeutic relationship with the goal of giving up that dream -- that pattern? That's what you said you were doing. So why is it so shattering that your T is FINALLY getting with it and trying to help you do what you SAID you wanted to do in the first place? I guess I'm just not not getting this whole scenario at all. If you say you want to change, and you went into this relationship with the goal of changing, what exactly is the problem here???? And the part about "the part couldn't help it" doesn't make sense to me either. If you don't have dissociative personality disorder, YOU control the parts. Make the hard choices and do the hard work if you're serious about changing.

Tired and crabby and working waaaaaaaay too hard at dredging through the muck that I went through as a child to deal with much of this.