Quote:
Originally Posted by My kids are cool
But didn't you go into this therapeutic relationship with the goal of giving up that dream -- that pattern? That's what you said you were doing. So why is it so shattering that your T is FINALLY getting with it and trying to help you do what you SAID you wanted to do in the first place? I guess I'm just not not getting this whole scenario at all. If you say you want to change, and you went into this relationship with the goal of changing, what exactly is the problem here???? And the part about "the part couldn't help it" doesn't make sense to me either. If you don't have dissociative personality disorder, YOU control the parts. Make the hard choices and do the hard work if you're serious about changing.
Tired and crabby and working waaaaaaaay too hard at dredging through the muck that I went through as a child to deal with much of this.
|
MKAC: I'm sorry we're upsetting each other. If you can't deal with my threads, please don't respond. I don't want you getting triggered. I don't know if I can explain. I'll try one more time because I want to know for my sake too. I know there is some truth in what you say so I don't want you to think I'm dismissing you at all.
But don't we all SAY what we want to do in therapy? Why does it often take years to change even though we make bad choices in life? Why is my situation any different? I've acted this way with 5 Ts, and before that, with other people, for about 30 years!!!!!!!
We can ALL control our parts. Then why is anyone in therapy? The problem is that saying "okay, I'm outa therapy" or "okay, my T isn't so important to me and I'm not making it about her" is almost impossible for me. I need help with my issues to be able to do that. Most of us in therapy can't change just because we'd be happier and healthier if we did. Isn't that why we're in therapy?
