Good post (((Roadie))),

Special you do have to sit back, look at it, and rethink, yes, but you also have to LEARN from what you are looking at as well.

Now Roadie is another example of someone who had to do just that and made a decision to walk away from the constant DRAMA too. But you also have to make sure that YOU DON'T TAKE THE DISFUNCTION WITH YOU.

Roadie LEARNED some things and one important thing learned was HOW TO LISTEN AND VALIDATE OTHERS. Somehow Roadie walked away from the family tradition of thinking "it has to be all about them". Roadie has friends here as well as IRL that is more of a functional family type, healthier atmosphere.

There ARE people out there IRL like your grandmother special. But in order to find them you have to make sure you don't take the family disfunction of the all about me drama with you.

Special, there are all kinds of people that exhibit the scars of NOT BEING HEARD in THEIR FAMILES YOU KNOW.

And it is AMAZING what people do to try to get to that place WHERE THEY FEEL HEARD. Some spend years in colleges getting an education so they can know so much so they can be heard. Some people are work aholics so they can have that mercedes or whatever is THE prestigeous car to have, THEY GOT TO HAVE IT SO THEY CAN BE HEARD.

Bullies? Oh, they are doing the bully thing because IT IS THE ONLY WAY THEY CAN BE HEARD. Most, if not all of them are NOT HEARD AT HOME YOU KNOW.

There is no short supply of people that come from disfunctional situations where THEY WERE JUST NEVER HEARD.

Special life is worth living, you just can't keep going to find that from people who don't know how to show you that and listen to you. And sadly often that is our families. You are not alone in that you know. You have to change course and the people around that you give your brain energy to thats all.

(((Hugs))))
Open Eyes