Maven, your questions and your "what ifs" is what's so INvalidating to those of us who HAVE been violated!

If you honestly believe what you say you do, WHY ask questions that bring serious doubt to your statements?

Like I said before, you go off on tangents and argue the point that really have no room in a discussion like this. Those of us who HAVE been violated in the worst ways can clearly see that you haven't "walked a mile in our mocassins" and it infuriates us for you to have even a thought of protecting these criminals.

Why argue the point?? It's terribly INVALIDATING for those of us who carry scars, pain, rage, memories we'd rather erase from our lives!

This thread, in many ways has been a healing thread for many of us because we've forged a head despite your "what ifs"!! You wouldn't have these "what ifs" if YOU had been violated. And as for your "sexual harrassment," these days even innocent flirting can be misconstrued as "sexual harrassment." Little kids in school that hug each other are accused of it, for pitty's sake!

You can sigh a sigh of relief when you think back on your experience. WE CAN'T! It DID happen to us!