Ok.. I think I better understand where you are coming from..This thread goes to show the different thinking of those who have been molested and those who have not been molested...

I can see your point on the child on the plane and I understand your boyfriend's feelings... Being perceived he is something that he isn't, just because he is a male....I can also understand taking all precautions to keep children safe......I guess it can be "extreme" on both sides.. with out even considering a middle ground... middle ground is "touchy" when it comes to a child' s safety.......

Yes, there is nothing wrong with asking questions... The difference from one being molested to one that hasn't, can determine the quality of answers. Yes my skin scrawls on these topics...But if I am to understand where your coming from, you also need to "understand" where I'm coming from... I doubt many victims have sat back and even thought once about the what ifs about predators... They tend to have a mind set on predators and may even "run" from such a topic.....I think it is very BRAVE of all the survivors that contributed to this thread....... Their thinking and feelings are validated.... When someone questions the reasons a predator does what he does, and tosses in all the ifs and what nots, it only invalidates the victims experiences...