Narcissists are manipulative. Borderlines are not. Mental health workers who don't get this probably also think that small children cry "to get attention" and should therefore be ignored. Grr. Borderlines can be the most loving people and should never, ever be called "manipulative." Scared, angry (at being scared), yep. But "manipulative" implies calculation, which is pretty hilareous in reference to borderlines. I mean, how calculating can you be when you are totally freaking out? Sorry -- I realize I'm preaching to the choir -- wish I could talk to the writer of that article.