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Old Jun 14, 2012, 02:22 PM
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Hi Whimsygirl ~ I'm sorry this has happened. Have you been given NO reason at ALL for this disappearance? I think you deserve some explanation. It's only decent! To just pull away and disappear without any kind of reason or explanation is just cowardly.

I would try to contact this person and ASK if i'd done something wrong or what the problem was so that IF I'd done something I could correct it. But to just leave you wondering isn't fair.

After my husband died, every one of our friends dumped me. No explanation, no nothing. I tried contacting them, but all I ever got was answering machines. I left messages, but no one ever contacted me. I just gave up. I guess they didn't want a single woman in a couples-only group. I didn't know what else to think. We had all gotten along just fine. Who needs them. That was 11 years ago, and I haven't seen or heard from anyone since.

I know it can be painful and lonely -- but try to get out among people. Don't hide away in your home. Yes, it's hard when you're depressed, but once you're out it does feel a little better. I hope you're in therapy. If not, you may want to think about seeing a therapist. It's helped me alot. Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee
Hi Lee....Thanks so very much for your message. What a horrible and hurtful thing your "ex-friends" did to you....I am so sorry you went through that. I will never understand the cruelty some people are capable of, and fight daily to understand that people who would do things like that are in fact also "troubled"....although unlike me, they'll most likely never know it. (Hopefully that made sense!) Sadly, though, because I do suffer from depression (at times severe), when I care about someone and they hurt me badly, I tend to turn it all inwards and feel like it is just further proof that I don't matter in the world. Otherwise, I think I answered some of your questions in the response I just posted. As for therapy, I have been there many times, but must say I've not been lucky with finding the right therapist, which I believe is so important. It can be especially challenging when you live in a rural area, as I do....there just aren't as many options. Plus there's that pesky little thing of no longer having health insurance to help pay for it. We'll see, would really love to talk to someone right about now, (at least for a few sessions), if I could find a good person. Thanks again for your kindness, and the hugs.....
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