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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
I finally realized that I needed to change and I needed to stop focusing so much on my "impossible" needs-- like "I don't have that, it's not fair!" and "I'm in pain, I need someone to make me feel better!" And, instead, focus on (1) the needs I could get met-- by my friends, my partner, etc. and (2) how I can meet the needs of others and give them what I never had. So, I decided to become a Big Sister (through the Big Brothers Big Sisters Program) for a little 7-year-old girl who doesn't have a mom. While I can't actually be her mom, I can be her "big sister" and give her the kind of love and attention I never got (and never will get). It's too late for me-- at 27-- to go back and get re-parented. But it isn't too late for this 7-year-old girl.
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Don't mean to hijack the thread, but I just want to say to scorpiosis that this is one of the most inspirational posts I've read on PC--it hits very much at the issues that I'm in therapy for and am working very hard on right now. (I'm just excerpting a tiny portion, but everything that you wrote is so important.) Thank you so much!
