As someone who had to give up custody to my ex, I say I would much rather give the baby up for adoption than do that again. It means I am forever tied to this jerk who also just happens to have the son I love so much. I can't so much as cut his hair without permission. We're poor and his dad has money, and his dad spoils him. When he comes over he turns selfish. "I want to go to my daddy's because I haven't gotten new toys in a while." It's really infuriating.

I know I was too poor to take care of him when all that happened. And maybe "financially" it was for the best. But emotionally, I don't think so. He is turning into his dad, and that's frustrating for me. Letting someone you loath take care of your kid is very difficult. This is just my experience and my personal opinion.

If abortion is not an option and you don't want the baby, then adoption is the next best choice. Don't feel guilty for that choice. Giving the baby to a loving family who can't have a child of their own is a blessing for the family, the baby, and for you, too.