(((rolan))),

Ah, I remember I had such a crush on this one guy in high school. I was in a private all girls school but our school and his private school had dances and we interacted with these guys. I was so shy and I didn't know any of the circle of friends he knew either. And I never really got to talk to him, but my heart sure did pound whenever I saw him.

Well that was many years ago and I did have other crushes since him that I never got together with. But years later when I saw some of these guys, I was glad I didn't get involved with them. They lost their looks and they didn't end up being anything much either. And with the way my life and interests went, they would not have been a good match for me.

When you find someone that you are attracted to, often it is easy to fantacize how perfect it would be to be with them. But we can tend to give them qualities that they do not really have and in reality, they would not be a good match for us.

This girl is just your type physically, nothing wrong with that. But it really has to be more than that and in time your tastes may even change a bit.

There is no use getting yourself so emotionally involved and focused on this girl. You need to get yourself busy with other things. There will be other girls out there, REALLY. You just have to get out in the world where they are.

You are still young yet, you are being too defeated before you have even really had a chance to get out there.

I just remembered my daughter had a crush on this one guy in high school too. I am glad she never got together with him, he was so all about himself, it would never have worked and she would have been miserable.

Open Eyes