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Originally Posted by WikidPissah
Rainbow... have you seen any improvement in your core issues with this T? I mean, I couldn't speak when I started with current T, and I STILL can't speak most of the time, but I have had a few moments(albeit few and far between) of opening up with him. I can see the itty bitty bit of progress. Can you?
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Yes, I see some progress. I never used to admit that I wanted a T to love me, and to explore the feelings around saying that. I finally admitted that something wasn't quite right in my past or else I wouldn't have the feelings I do. I'm beginning to visualize my Self holding the child part sometimes. I feel less anxious in general. Yoga has helped me a lot. I identify with your not speaking since I had selective mutism and speaking has always been difficult for me. Still is, sometimes.
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Originally Posted by VenusHalley
ad parts.... don't take this as offense, but you seem to put everything bad or uncomfortable on "parts". It's not you, it's this part and that part and the other part...
I do that because my T tells me "it's not all of you; it's just a part". This part stuff comes from IFS and from my T.
we are in therapy and here.... because we have issues. But having issues does not equal having no control over how we react to our feelings. We do... we just sometimes don't know better...
Your threads make me wonder if your real issues don't actually stem from self-esteem and lack of self-compassion issue rather than "unmet needs". You seem to have a lot of good people in your life... but you are try to fill something that others cannot fill.
How do you see yourself? do you like yourself?
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I like myself better than I used to. I do have low self-esteem, though. Thanks for your input.
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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
My current experience is that I cannot accept parts of me as ME. I'm just not there yet....We are the sum of our parts....but I am not whole yet.
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That's a good observation, MUE.
