I think just supporting any decision he makes is really all you can do. Hopefully he'll go for the job, and when he gets it, that will make him understand why his professors saw enough in him to send him the emails. It's tough being in the wife/friend/family position with someone who has confidence issues. They're just gonna think we're being nice because we have to. I went through that a few months back when I started hanging out with a group of people, I thought they were just being nice. It wasn't until I felt I really belonged that I understood that I'm a good fun person, and why wouldn't they want to hang out with me? But I had to experience it for myself to understand it. Sending good thoughts for hubby and the job!