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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
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The points hilighted in ** is the difference between you and the OP, and the very reason I suggested giving her ex full custody. She feels forced into giving birth, and is uncomfortable with adoption, so I thought that the ex would be a solution since he wants this baby, and is infact backing her into a corner to have a baby she never wanted.
#Just clarifying why I suggested the ex#
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That's tru, Trippin.
I do still think adoption is a good way to go, or see if you can do this like a closed adoption. Because, honestly, I think it would be just as bad to be forever tied to someone you hate over a child you never even wanted and were forced to have. It could generate so much negativity.
Child support laws can be very strict. In my state, even if a dad does not want any custody and doesn't want anything to do with a child, there is nothing he can sign that forever severs that tie and he must pay child support or faces wage garnishment, denial on employment, and even jail time. I do believe it is the same for either parent (you just hear about dads more.) I think when you do an adoption you give up the child. When you do custody (even full custody,) you are still considered financially responsible in some way.
That's just how I see it.
