I think it was inappropriate, but I don't think she meant it to be. Most T's are blunt (mine very much so). As a school counselor, she probably deals with 13/14 year olds on a daily basis that are experienced in that area. Some, like you and myself, have no clue at that age. I tend to agree that she was just normalizing it so that you could talk about it if it was an issue. But I still don't think she handled it very well.

I had intense mom transference to exT that resulted in termination and a referral, which was her supervisor. The supervisor is my current T. About the 4th session I had with her, we were discussing some of my feelings towards exT. She bluntly said something like "sometimes mom transference can seem homosexual." She acted like it was no big deal to say that. I immediatley was like "oh no its NOTHING like that, no romance feelings AT ALL." After that, I almost felt judged. In the back of my mind, I'm always self conscious that she thinks I have homosexual feelings.