I have never found orgasms to be all that great. I've never gotten off during sex, though I am perfectly capable of reaching an orgasm within minutes on my own. There is nothing earth shattering about it -- no convulsing, moaning, or screams of delight! Lol! I mean, really, if this is what orgasm was like, how would we ever do it on our own without being caught?

My boyfriend asks me to find ways to get off during sex even after I explain to him that sex, to me, is more about doing things that feel nice instead of achieving some end goal. He thinks this is weird and says he doesn't understand that mentality, but we both agree it has to be a guy/girl thing. According to my boyfriend, it's not sex guys crave, it's the 'relief' afterwards.

However, I am very happy that my boyfriend has told me that he hates the 'fake moaning' women make to please their partners. He tells me he knows this is fake, because it's the exact same noise women make in porn when giving guys head. Thank god I found a boy who doesn't think women find pleasing dudes orgasmic. Hahaha.

So don't blame yourself, there is nothing wrong with you. I suspect a good portion of women find themselves in our situation. Think about the stereotype that women always want their men to last longer -- It's because we're in it for the pleasure of doing it but men are built to just get it done. I think it's a male-centric view to perceive orgasm as essential for sexual pleasure/satisfaction.