I think if you are happy/content/know how you want it to look and feel like you are on track (whatever the correct word would be here) with your relationship with your husband, then it is not really anyone else's business. Self respect is the better option between others and yourself - I believe. I respect you for doing what you think is best for you.
I admit I do not fully understand the relationship between you and your husband - or the church - but that is my problem-not yours. I think it can hit a lot of people who perceive some of it as oppressive (for example =a grown woman being told what she can view on the computer and when etc).
I try to be supportive to the extent I can figure out how to be so in some situations you describe with your husband. I do respect you, it is just a very different situation than I understand. I wish I could think of a more clear way to write this, I feel quite clumsy here.