That's not enough, Lex. I stayed for 4 years in a relationship that should have died after 1, just because "but he treats me so well." I didn't love him, and I didn't respect him -- I was not only smarter than he was (a problem for me -- I need at the very least somebody who can keep up with me intellectually) but I could manipulate him with ease. The facts both that I could do that and that he let me --- well, it just wasn't good.

We actually got engaged, but after spending so many nights laying awake thinking to myself, "OMG, *what* am I doing?!," it was a tremendous blessing when HE called it off. (He dumped me over the phone, 6 weeks before the wedding! Scumbag. I didn't want to marry him, but he didn't have to be a coward about it!)

You deserve not only to be treated well but to be in love with the person who does so. It's not worth it, otherwise.

Hugs and love,
Candy