These are great questions, Can't Explain!

Bamapsych, in terms of how risky it is to ask, rejection-wise, that depends on what exactly you mean by that. I don't think asking will in any way damage your Ts opinion of you. I don't think there is anything strange about having that desire. Therefore, I think she will simply want to discuss it with you, and ask precisely the kind of questions Can't Explain lists above. However, I think her answer will probably be "no." While some therapists may be willing to let a child client (or a DID client with a child alter) touch their hair, I think most Ts would probably say no to adult clients because of the level of intimacy involved. If you think about it, how many people do you let touch your hair? For me personally, the only people I let touch my hair are my partner, my hairdresser, and my gay-boy best friend.

I did, however, tell T that I once had a dream where I gave her a make-over The make-over involved styling her hair, doing her make-up, and giving her a new outfit to wear. She said my dream was "awesome" and said she thought I'd probably do a great job! (Though I know she wouldn't let me give her a make-over in real life)