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Originally Posted by lucydog
I'm not sure what your t does with her hair, but just a head's up so you won't be hurt if she says no: black women do NOT let people touch their hair. Period. Husbands of black women my go years without touching their wives' hair. Black women may spend over $1000 a month on hair treatments, and it must never be touched.
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Lucy, I'm sure you didn't mean anything by it, but this comment came off as offensive to me. There are millions of black women in the world, and they all have their own opinions on everything, including their hair. There is no "rule" that all black women feel the same way about their hair.
This is a stereotype.
The only way to know how T feels about people touching her hair, is to ask. It doesn't matter if T is white, black, asian, indian, or whatever.
However, the OP said that her T says her "inner child" needs to "grow up", and said her relationships were "immature". To me, these are signs that her request will probably met with a firm "no", and perhaps an uncomfortable conversation about boundaries. Not because her T is African American, but because of her views on her client.