Boo, are you saying that episode of Nip/Tuck was based on real case? It was so sad!

jannie, that's great! Congratulations!

I'm not sure desirae meant to hurt anyone's feelings. I didn't really think her post was unsupportive. I know some people feel very fat people can be attractive, and there's nothing wrong with that, but not everyone does, and I think desirae was just being honest in how she feels. Sometimes it's better to keep an opinion to yourself to spare someone's feelings, but I really don't think she meant it in a mean way.

I know I qualify as obese, and I think I might qualify as morbidly obese. I don't know my exact weight, but I'm around 220 lbs. I don't think I'm attractive--although I don't think I'm the worst around; I think I have a nice face. I believe being very overweight isn't healthy, and being unhealthy isn't attractive. It's ok to disagree, but that's how I feel.

I will partially disagree with you, desirae, in that obese people aren't aware of what they're doing to their bodies. I know what I'm doing. I think a lot of people aren't fully aware of how bad they've gotten, perhaps because of an avoidance of mirrors and scales, or just that they happen to not see themselves in mirrors much. We don't have any full-body mirrors in our home, except for one that's put away, and I rarely see my whole body in a mirror. I can look down and see part of it, but you don't see the whole until you look in a mirror. I will go for months without seeing myself, and when I do, it's a shock.

But I'm fully aware that what I eat and how much I eat is killing me. I don't want to die, but the food does give me a high. I feel antsy and anxious when I don't at least have food I want available. I can resist eating the food with less anxiety if I have it available, rather than having no such foods easily accessible. But I usually give in, because it makes me feel good, for the moment.

Notthemama, forget the old clothes...wouldn't you rather have the new body?