I see a lot of posts here from people who have ended or are in the process of ending their relationship with T, for a variety of reasons. I haven't even opened the threads to read the details, but I want to share this:

It's been 6 months since I last saw or spoke to ex-T, 8 months since the beginning of the end, and I want to tell you all that it is easier now than it was. It DOES get easier. It doesn't hurt all the time anymore, and when it does hurt the pain isn't as intense. I don't cry every day, or probably every week. I can find a half a day goes by before I ever think of ex-T, so long that when I DO think of her I have this pleasant surprised moment like, "hey, self good job for not thinking of ex-T for 6 hours! "

I still have so many questions, and I think I always will. It sucks that it ended the way it did, and I can't change that. But I promise you, PROMISE you, that it does get easier. It will get easier. And no matter how good your T was, no matter how much you trusted him/her, they don't have the right to hurt you in the end. It's not about you, it's about them. Even a good T can make horrible mistakes that lead to clients getting hurt, and that's not ok. It's not your fault. It's not your fault.